What were you thinking – one of those tranquilizer dart guns they use in African game reserves – hahahaha!
Actually to me it seems quite odd that you are attempting advanced male training with extended chastity periods when you have been together less than two years. Normally you would be reaching that point between four and seven years together.
The advanced male training is really not applicable unless you are in a Level 4 FLR. This is where you the female dominant partner now controls all five food groups in the relationship. Some describe such a relationship as being a dictatorship, i.e. you make the decisions with little or no consultation with your subordinate and he must obey. So if you are at the point where you initiate advanced training and you feel he needs a tranquilizer you simply command him to take one and he obeys. If it does not work like that then you still have a lot to cover before attempting advanced training.
Another point is that although in the literature FLR is often described in terms of slavery including corporal punishment etc. the reality is that in the modern world you need to be very careful of the law. Locking someone up could see you convicted of deprivation of liberty and corporal punishment see you convicted of assault occasioning grievous bodily harm. So the recommendation is Willful Participation not Forced Subjugation. This also means that you need to spend considerable time with your partner discussing the big issues working him around to your point of view. The conflicts around the big issues should not be swiftly resolved via the “good boy button”.
Now you may feel that you do not have enough power in the relationship to make this happen, for example if you lock the chastity device with a single use plastic lock. This protects you from the law, but now he can easily break out without your consent weakening the power of orgasm denial. There has to be an understanding that doing so will have consequences. For example as you control the finances you could reduce pocket money as a punishment. The ultimate threat is to terminate the relationship.
But there is an even more potent psychological tool that you have at your disposal to motivate you submissive. There is a hierarchy of needs where basic physiological needs like food, shelter and sex sit at the base of a pyramid. Organism denial is a very powerful way to control your subordinate. By raising his basic needs, it causes him to divert a larger proportion of his energies pleasing you. But there are limits to its usefulness especially in a Willful Participation regime. Long term orgasm denial is not really a motivator, it is used to break a man in order to achieve identity reframing. You should also be aware that man may break in one of two ways. What you want is the identity reframing, but what you might get is a withdrawal of Willful Participation followed by separation. Both of you lose!
During the confrontation of long term orgasm denial you risk this happening and it’s like gamboling in a poker game. He must then decide to comply leading Identity Reframing or risk leaving the tent into an uncertain world.
The second level up in the hierarchy of needs is the need for safety. It is this need that keeps him in willful compliance. Actually the need for safety like the need for sex varies widely between individuals. As an Alpha female and he a Beta male, his safety needs will be higher than yours and that is the source of power in your favor.
Something else about natures call. Basic needs like sex and food are controlled by the limbic system in the brain. When a need is satiated the body releases hormones that shut the hunger down. After this cycle completes many times, the limbic system builds up a tolerance for the readily available relief. Introduce different food or different sex partners and different pathways in the limbic system for which there is no tolerance are excited.
In a FLR you should always be honest with your subordinate male. It is not OK to become involved with another male without his full knowledge. If he does not trust you, then he is more likely break the wrong way. Being honest however can help break your male subordinate the right way.
For example while in a period of long duration orgasm denial, get him into a cuddling session where you talk. Tell him something like: “there is this really hot guy who is doing some consulting at work. The other day I caught him giving me a long stare and guess what I have started to fanaticise about him. But it is unlikely that I will get involved.”
Your male subordinate will see this as a threat, it will raise his safety needs and make him divert more of his energies pleasing you. It will also strongly arouse him sexually, this has to do with the threat stimulating different pathways in the limbic system, for which there is no tolerance. Again more energy diverted into pleasing you, and more inclination for him to break the way you want!
Beta males attracted into a level 4 FLR: they are just big sooks aren't they, but you love them, even if they are sissies!
Yes it is a game, slowly and skilfully taking your subordinate to a break where he reframes instead of parting company, becomes placid, eager to please and no longer possessive. I can tell you now that when you realize that you have achieved this you will experience a rush of pleasure like nothing you have ever experienced before!
Actually to me it seems quite odd that you are attempting advanced male training with extended chastity periods when you have been together less than two years. Normally you would be reaching that point between four and seven years together.
The advanced male training is really not applicable unless you are in a Level 4 FLR. This is where you the female dominant partner now controls all five food groups in the relationship. Some describe such a relationship as being a dictatorship, i.e. you make the decisions with little or no consultation with your subordinate and he must obey. So if you are at the point where you initiate advanced training and you feel he needs a tranquilizer you simply command him to take one and he obeys. If it does not work like that then you still have a lot to cover before attempting advanced training.
Another point is that although in the literature FLR is often described in terms of slavery including corporal punishment etc. the reality is that in the modern world you need to be very careful of the law. Locking someone up could see you convicted of deprivation of liberty and corporal punishment see you convicted of assault occasioning grievous bodily harm. So the recommendation is Willful Participation not Forced Subjugation. This also means that you need to spend considerable time with your partner discussing the big issues working him around to your point of view. The conflicts around the big issues should not be swiftly resolved via the “good boy button”.
Now you may feel that you do not have enough power in the relationship to make this happen, for example if you lock the chastity device with a single use plastic lock. This protects you from the law, but now he can easily break out without your consent weakening the power of orgasm denial. There has to be an understanding that doing so will have consequences. For example as you control the finances you could reduce pocket money as a punishment. The ultimate threat is to terminate the relationship.
But there is an even more potent psychological tool that you have at your disposal to motivate you submissive. There is a hierarchy of needs where basic physiological needs like food, shelter and sex sit at the base of a pyramid. Organism denial is a very powerful way to control your subordinate. By raising his basic needs, it causes him to divert a larger proportion of his energies pleasing you. But there are limits to its usefulness especially in a Willful Participation regime. Long term orgasm denial is not really a motivator, it is used to break a man in order to achieve identity reframing. You should also be aware that man may break in one of two ways. What you want is the identity reframing, but what you might get is a withdrawal of Willful Participation followed by separation. Both of you lose!
During the confrontation of long term orgasm denial you risk this happening and it’s like gamboling in a poker game. He must then decide to comply leading Identity Reframing or risk leaving the tent into an uncertain world.
The second level up in the hierarchy of needs is the need for safety. It is this need that keeps him in willful compliance. Actually the need for safety like the need for sex varies widely between individuals. As an Alpha female and he a Beta male, his safety needs will be higher than yours and that is the source of power in your favor.
Something else about natures call. Basic needs like sex and food are controlled by the limbic system in the brain. When a need is satiated the body releases hormones that shut the hunger down. After this cycle completes many times, the limbic system builds up a tolerance for the readily available relief. Introduce different food or different sex partners and different pathways in the limbic system for which there is no tolerance are excited.
In a FLR you should always be honest with your subordinate male. It is not OK to become involved with another male without his full knowledge. If he does not trust you, then he is more likely break the wrong way. Being honest however can help break your male subordinate the right way.
For example while in a period of long duration orgasm denial, get him into a cuddling session where you talk. Tell him something like: “there is this really hot guy who is doing some consulting at work. The other day I caught him giving me a long stare and guess what I have started to fanaticise about him. But it is unlikely that I will get involved.”
Your male subordinate will see this as a threat, it will raise his safety needs and make him divert more of his energies pleasing you. It will also strongly arouse him sexually, this has to do with the threat stimulating different pathways in the limbic system, for which there is no tolerance. Again more energy diverted into pleasing you, and more inclination for him to break the way you want!
Beta males attracted into a level 4 FLR: they are just big sooks aren't they, but you love them, even if they are sissies!
Yes it is a game, slowly and skilfully taking your subordinate to a break where he reframes instead of parting company, becomes placid, eager to please and no longer possessive. I can tell you now that when you realize that you have achieved this you will experience a rush of pleasure like nothing you have ever experienced before!